Deception!?

Khaled Kahla, Editor, Staff Writer

When it comes to hiding one’s feelings, I don’t think anyone does it better than those who are hurting the most. They like to say they are fine when their world is flipped upside down, acting as if everything is okay. With that being said, I believe that you should never completely trust someone when they say they are okay because most of the time there are signs that suggest the opposite.

I have encountered many situations that make my belief relevant today, yet the experience which has truly shaped this belief comes from my best friend. Growing up, I always spent a lot of time at my best friend’s house. We would do everything together; watch tv, play video games, make food, eat food, and a whole lot more. Eventually, my best friend started watching Naruto a lot, and with me being a Dragon Ball fan I made fun of him and teased him about how Dragon Ball is way better than what he was watching. But then I watched an episode, and I watched another, and another, and… It got to the point where I would be at his house after school every day, just me and him, watching Naruto and eating ramen. Though we had a blast every day, I noticed he was always alone with no one else in the house. Although I thought that was cool back then since he could do whatever he wanted, I realized that it must be lonely for him a lot of the time. I even remember him begging me to stay some days if I had to leave. So one day I decided to ask him, “Hey bro, how are you doing? Are you okay?” and he always told me “I’m good bro, for real.” Being a kid I didn’t give much thought, if he said that he’s okay then it must be true right? No, it isn’t.

As you get older and mature, you start to see things for what they really are. The small details actually start to mean something. Looking back at it, my best friend was miserable! He stayed home all day long without anyone home. His mom worked late, his sister stayed at school to focus on clubs, and his brother worked and liked going out with his friends. He was all alone other than when he was with me, which is only about 30 percent of the time. That loneliness truly did affect him and I now know this after talking to him. Yet, I wasn’t able to do anything about this when I was younger because I chose to believe his deceiving smile that told me everything was okay. 

That’s why I believe that more than 90 percent of the time a lie is being told to you about the reality someone is facing, and you should not believe it. This belief grew upon me throughout the years I have been friends with countless people. Although it is annoying, you shouldn’t ease up on someone just because they say that they are okay. You should apply consistent pressure on them to make sure they know that someone is there for them and will listen. That they are not alone. And if they truly are okay, well at least you can now be assured of that.